pesahabatan KA?

"Apakah erti persahabatan?". pertanyaan seseorang kepadaku.. lantass jawapan paling ringkas dan padat.. "sahabat adalah dalam diriku ada dia dalam dia ada aku".. terpaku seketika.. hahahaaa.. dalam hidup persahabat kadangkala ada surut naiknya.. tidak kira sebaik mana hubungan persahabat itu  tidak musnah di lambung ombak adalah kerana "HatI"yang pernah disebut sebelum ini.. tapi maksud hati disini mempunyai maksud tersendiri.boleh disamakan dalam teori Sigmund Freud, ego is compenant of personality that is responsibility for dealing reality. jadi reality yang harus diterima disini setiap apa yang terjadi adalah mempunyai sebab.. tindakan dan kelakuan / behavioural bermula dari hati wujud bukannya dari Id yang present from birh lagi..  maka apabila dipersoalkan hendaklah ianya direnungkan.. bagaimana?.. hahahaha...

The id is the only component of personality that is present from birth. This aspect of personality is entirely unconscious and includes of the instinctive and primitive behaviors. According to Freud, the id is the source of all psychic energy, making it the primary component of personality.

The id is driven by the pleasure principle, which strives for immediate gratification of all desires, wants, and needs. If these needs are not satisfied immediately, the result is a state anxiety or tension. For example, an increase in hunger or thirst should produce an immediate attempt to eat or drink. The id is very important early in life, because it ensures that an infant's needs are met. If the infant is hungry or uncomfortable, he or she will cry until the demands of the id are met.

However, immediately satisfying these needs is not always realistic or even possible. If we were ruled entirely by the pleasure principle, we might find ourselves grabbing things we want out of other people's hands to satisfy our own cravings. This sort of behavior would be both disruptive and socially unacceptable. According to Freud, the id tries to resolve the tension created by the pleasure principle through the primary process,which involves forming a mental image of the desired object as a way of satisfying the need.

The Ego

The ego is the component of personality that is responsible for dealing with reality. According to Freud, the ego develops from the id and ensures that the impulses of the id can be expressed in a manner acceptable in the real world. The ego functions in both theconscious, preconscious, and unconscious mind.

The ego operates based on the reality principle, which strives to satisfy the id's desires in realistic and socially appropriate ways. The reality principle weighs the costs and benefits of an action before deciding to act upon or abandon impulses. In many cases, the id's impulses can be satisfied through a process of delayed gratification--the ego will eventually allow the behavior, but only in the appropriate time and place.

The ego also discharges tension created by unmet impulses through the secondary process, in which the ego tries to find an object in the real world that matches the mental image created by the id's primary process.

The Superego

The last component of personality to develop is the superego. The superego is the aspect of personality that holds all of our internalized moral standards and ideals that we acquire from both parents and society--our sense of right and wrong. The superego provides guidelines for making judgments. According to Freud, the superego begins to emerge at around age five.

There are two parts of the superego:

1. The ego ideal includes the rules and standards for good behaviors. These behaviors include those which are approved of by parental and other authority figures. Obeying these rules leads to feelings of pride, value and accomplishment.
2. The conscience includes information about things that are viewed as bad by parents and society. These behaviors are often forbidden and lead to bad consequences, punishments or feelings of guilt and remorse.

The superego acts to perfect and civilize our behavior. It works to suppress all unacceptable urges of the id and struggles to make the ego act upon idealistic standards rather that upon realistic principles. The superego is present in the conscious, preconscious and unconscious.

The Interaction of the Id, Ego and Superego

With so many competing forces, it is easy to see how conflict might arise between the id, ego and superego. Freud used the term ego strength to refer to the ego's ability to function despite these dueling forces. A person with good ego strength is able to effectively manage these pressures, while those with too much or too little ego strength can become too unyielding or too disrupting.

According to Freud, the key to a healthy personality is a balance between the id, the ego, and the superego.

cerita sahabat..

Teman,kawan dan sahabat terdapat makna yang tersendiri.Istilah teman kawan dan sahabat ini berbeza penggunaannya.Mungkin yang membezakan antara tiga istilah itu adalah kekuatan dalam perhubungan. Teman adalah orang yang boleh menjadi tempat untuk kita berkongsi suka duka dan masalah.Sahabat pula adalah seseorang yang boleh memahami diri kita disetiap situasi.Dia berperanan lebih istimewa berbanding teman.Kawan pula adalah seseorang yang sama peranannya seperti teman,cuma mungkin keterikatan kawan itu longgar sedikit berbanding teman.Mungkin contoh yang boleh dibawa ialah istilah kerapdan familiar didengar  "kawan makan kawan".Kita tidak menggunakan istilah teman makan teman ataupun sahabat makan sahabat .Jadi,ia menjadi bukti bahawa keakraban teman dan sahabat itu adalah jauh lebih kuat berbanding kawan. FIkIR-FIKIRKAn DAn SElAMaT BErAmaL.. tapI dalam kita bersahabat terlalu banyak yang kita alami.. itu sebenarnya yang mengajar kita erti kehidupan sebenar dalam persahabatan.. seorang teman pernah berpesan kepada diri ini.."beringatlah sahabat yang dianggapmu sahabat baik tidak mustahil akan menjadi duri dalam hidupmu" kala dan ketika ini baru aku sedar ada betulnya kata-kata teman itu, tapi kini berbalik pada diri ini pula terfikir semula segala yang buruk datang dari kita manusia dan yang baik datangnya dari ALLAh s.w.t. maka dapat disimpulkan disini manusia itu sendiri memainkan peranan.. keseluruhannya adalah dari HATI kita.. jadi ketulusan dan keikhlasan dalam nilai persahabatan bermula daRi HATI.. sUngguHHH~~

kala~

todAY: JaM 09:00, East 1 at University-Tun-Abdul-Razak.

Meeting about practical semester January 2012.. under http://www.unirazak.edu.my/ Faculty Of Education Social and Science University Tun Abdul Razak. oh my i was to lost remember about this!!.. in meeting i was thinking oh my i only have 2 semester to undergoing practicum my major course.. it become i remember  that how the faster day,year and time.. ohh my i will end campus life soon.. sAD, sad,, sad.. but i am Happy too.. thanks for Teo Eng Seng AMN http://www.teo-education.com/ because  give a briefing.